Shine With Grace

Below is 10 rules listed by Dr. Philip McGraw in his book, Life Strategies, in regard to human behaviour.  Wanna win friends and influence people?  Do bear them in mind:

1. The number-one fear among all people is rejection.
2. The number-one need among all people is acceptance.
3. To manage people effectively, you must do it in a way that protects or enhances their self-esteem.
4. Everybody - and I mean everybody - approaches every situation with at least some concern about “what’s in it for me?’
5. Everybody - and I mean everybody - prefers to talk about things that are important to them personally.
6. People hear and incorporate only what they understand.
7. People like, trust, and believe those who like them.
8. People often do things for other than the apparent reasons.
9. Even people of quality can be, and often are, petty and small.
10. Everybody - and I mean everybody - wears a social mask.  You must look beyond the mask to see the person.

We all have failed to communicate with our love / family / colleagues / friends as effectively as we wished to, right?  Examine the list above, there really are some truth in it.  

You can be absoutly right.  But, if there is no rapport between you and the person you’re trying to communicate with, he/she is not going to listen to you. 

You can be absoutly right.  But, if your message hamper the other’s self-esteem, he/she is not going to listen to you.

You can be absoutly right.  But, if you are conveying your message in a way the other person can’t understand, he/she is not going to listen to you.

When come to think about it, it’s that simple. 

And, well, it takes a lot of efforts to build rapport, to tune in to the common wave-length…

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