Comments on: If You Can’t Say No In A Relationship, You Have To Say No To The Relationship http://shinewithgrace.com/2008/04/01/if-you-cant-say-no-in-a-relationship-you-have-to-say-no-to-the-relationship/ We are born to shine... Mon, 08 Sep 2008 03:38:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: shine http://shinewithgrace.com/2008/04/01/if-you-cant-say-no-in-a-relationship-you-have-to-say-no-to-the-relationship/#comment-1015 shine Sat, 05 Apr 2008 14:27:43 +0000 http://shinewithgrace.com/2008/04/01/if-you-cant-say-no-in-a-relationship-you-have-to-say-no-to-the-relationship/#comment-1015 Thank you dear Jon. This may sound common sensical, but well, not easy to understand / put into practice in reality. Most of the time, we don't want to rock the boat, or hoping that this would be the last time I have to put it up (and in most cases it is not)... I learn it the hard way too. Thank you dear Jon. This may sound common sensical, but well, not easy to understand / put into practice in reality. Most of the time, we don’t want to rock the boat, or hoping that this would be the last time I have to put it up (and in most cases it is not)…

I learn it the hard way too.

]]> By: Jon http://shinewithgrace.com/2008/04/01/if-you-cant-say-no-in-a-relationship-you-have-to-say-no-to-the-relationship/#comment-1013 Jon Thu, 03 Apr 2008 21:59:53 +0000 http://shinewithgrace.com/2008/04/01/if-you-cant-say-no-in-a-relationship-you-have-to-say-no-to-the-relationship/#comment-1013 I always love your themes. This is a biggie. And I don't know why a lot of people don't understand that it's so important to be able to respectfully articulate no. Sometimes it's not even that the partner is unaware. Some partners just don't want any dissent... they believe that a good relationship means that the person always makes them happy by agreeing to everything. I once knew a person who was like that. Not unexpectedly, tragedy befell their relationship because she took complete advantage of him and when he stopped allowing it, she became abusive. I'm going to forward this post to a friend. :) I always love your themes. This is a biggie. And I don’t know why a lot of people don’t understand that it’s so important to be able to respectfully articulate no.

Sometimes it’s not even that the partner is unaware. Some partners just don’t want any dissent… they believe that a good relationship means that the person always makes them happy by agreeing to everything.

I once knew a person who was like that. Not unexpectedly, tragedy befell their relationship because she took complete advantage of him and when he stopped allowing it, she became abusive.

I’m going to forward this post to a friend. :)

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